birthday blues

so yesterday was hubby bubby’s bday. it was a bust. ended up badly. this thing with his dad has just gotten out of control. it’s been well over a year and nothing’s changed. every time we make an overture at amends, it gets rebuffed. it sucks. it sucks more for hubby bubby. we tried at xmas to rebuild the relationship, we tried at father’s day. nothing. nada. zip. his dad doesn’t want things to change. then, his dad asked him about his bday plans, and wanted to have din with him last night. hubby said that he was having din with me. talk about putting hubby in a bad spot. let’s see... please choose between your father and your wife. that sucks. he chose me. but then... my parents called and asked what we were doing, and if they could take us out. hubby bubby said sure, and named the place. great dinner, everything good. then guess who walks in? oh it was horrible. so fake. bcs of course he brought the witch with him. then his dad had his feelings hurt. and hubby and i got in to it bcs feelings are still hurt. and he’s going out to din with his dad tonight, and i am not included in those plans. it’s ridiculously stupid. family events are strained. we don’t know what else to do. we keep extending the olive branch, and he keeps chopping it away. so hubby and i kinda got in to it last night. he’s angry. i'm angry. no bday sex was had. enough said?

then we were talking earlier this afternoon about his dinner with his dad tonight. i think my feelings are hurt that he’s not fighting harder for me. i was not invited to this dinner, but hubby didn’t say anything to his dad about me joining them, or checking with his wife about it. he just took it for a given that i was not invited. AAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH

i feel bad for hubby. this has not been easy on him. not been easy on us as a couple. he just feels so powerless. meanwhile, we’re selling our rental property to his dad. hubby has this laisez faire attitude about it. meanwhile, since I'm the one who handles all our money and financial stuff, I'm pushing for details. hubby’s just like, it’ll get done whenever and for whatever amount... huh? this has been in the works for six months now. it was supposed to be done at the end of may. we’ve been losing money on it ever since. his dad’s been taking his sweet time on it. it’s finally done. should be by tomorrow. but after the sale of the house is final, his dad will be gifting us money to cover the rest of the house cost (the official sale price is a lesser amount to avoid pesky sales and personal property taxes). but the kicker is, we don’t know what the gifted amount will be. i think this is important information to have. hubby just says that we’ll know when we see it. uh, no. doesn’t work for me. i guess they’re gonna talk about it tonight at dinner. hopefully things will be better after that.

oh, i’d rather be knititng...